Sunday, November 18, 2012

Adoption is Hard

It is plain tough. And these last few days have been just that for Bryce and Cindy. The kids had their medical check ups on Saturday. No real surprises there. Sunday was a pre-scheduled shopping day with their group. I don't have many details about those days, because I haven't heard from them too much. What I do know is that these days with Tim have been really difficult. His behavior continues to be very bad at times and it is apparent that there is a lot of healing that needs to take place in his little heart...not just his physical one either. They have read all the books, done all the training, talked to other adoptive parents. So it's not like they were blind when they walked in to this adoption. But I am not sure that anyone else's story can fully prepare you for the tantrums, the intentional misbehavior, or the rejection that can come from the little boy in all of those adorable pictures that you've stared at and prayed for for months!

It. Is. Hard!

But this is adoption reality folks. And I think it is a true and accurate picture of the relationship with our Heavenly Father. He loves us more than we can imagine, but sometimes we just can't see it. How many tantrums and intentional misbehaviors have we been responsible for? We, like Tim, are often spoiled, selfish, unknowing, and lack understanding of His unfailing love for us.

"We love him, because he first loved us."
1 John 4:19

Please pray for Tim today. Pray that he begins to understand the love of a family. Pray that Bryce and Cindy can communicate well with him. Pray that his fearful heart is calmed and that a peace would settle over him during these final days in Guangzhou. Pray that Bryce and Cindy have extra grace and patience over the next few days and the ability to see past life in a hotel room.

Only three more sleeps for them until Hong Kong. Then only one day there before they board their flight home. They arrive in Memphis on Thanksgiving Day and make a 3 hour drive home. And there will then be two more little American citizens!

Hopefully Cindy will post again soon. But my guess is it may not be until after they come home. Feel free to leave encouraging comments for Bryce and Cindy below.

Lori :-)





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  1. pvbeachNovember 18, 2012 at 6:52 AM

    Hang in there! China really can be so hard. Once you get home and can establish routines it will get easier. Praying for your last few days there to be more peaceful. Praying for a safe flight home and for Tim to realize what a family means.

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  2. megs @ whadusayNovember 18, 2012 at 11:29 AM

    Hi, I found your blog through Lori, we are in a facebook group together.
    I think I had a post titled the exact same as this one two years ago when we brought our daughter home. Adoption is Hard! But, it does get better, so much better! It might take time, but with each month that passes, if you look back, you will see progress. Lean into God, trust his plan for you and your kids, pray like crazy, and hang in there!! He has lead you this far, and He won't forsake you now!! Praying for you and your kiddos!!

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  3. ourchinagirlsNovember 19, 2012 at 7:55 PM

    Hi, I think I saw your superboy and his Daddy at the Garden. I was the lady with a 10 year old and our new 6 year old daughter in tow. Adoption is HARD! Our newest daughter was much more delayed than we expected and it was a very big surprise to us after all the referral info and new updated info on her. First few days were rocky to say the very least. We arrvied home yesterday and once she gets over the initial shock of the dog and cats...I think we will fall into a routine. Hope things continue to get better for you too!

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  4. KimNovember 21, 2012 at 5:24 AM

    Adoption is hard! We came home 2.5 weeks ago and she is still raging and never sleeps. I want you to know I understand and know how very very difficult this is. I never in my wildest dreams thought adoption would be like this.

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